I could write a post about my husband in honor of Father’s Day. I may have written a few over the years. He is a caring guy who sat next to me on the plane after our first visit to Ghana and we knew our world had changed. We both experienced poverty up close but more than that, we experienced vulnerable children who didn’t have anyone advocating for them in this world. And ever since then, he became a father regardless of DNA. The kind of father that this world needs in multitudes. The kind of father that looks at the lonely, the vulnerable and the forgotten and says, you are welcome in my home. But today, I want to write about fathers that are desperately needed in the world, the ones who will stand up and fight for all children.
I have read numerous articles and statistics about men who are reluctant to adopt. Most adoption conversations in a marriage are started by a woman, but it is the man who either keeps that conversation going or shuts it down. It’s sometimes referred to as the reluctant husband syndrome and marriages can be strained by the differences in opinion regarding adoption. There isn’t anything wrong to ask questions, to learn more about adoption or even wrestle through some doubts. Adoption is not for every family during every season. Adoption process is not for the faint of heart and a child deserves parents who will work through any challenges that they may encounter as a family.
The simple fact is, that this world needs fathers. Men who will stand up for the vulnerable children and empty the orphanages. Men who sacrifice the western dream in order to provide the basic necessities for voiceless. Men who drive minivans with pride because their treasures are inside the vehicle, and not measured by the label you see on the outside. Men who will engage in fostering children no matter how long or how short the stay may be. These men have focus, they are humble and they are quiet heroes of this world. They are building up the next generations by their actions and by their words.
I am waiting for more fathers to step up and take on this noble calling of eternal difference. I am hoping that hearts continue to be stirred and for men to realize this is all our issue. Whether it’s adoption, foster care, coming alongside vulnerable families or helping widows thrive, more men are needed. The times I have been weak, I’ve wanted to walk away from the paperwork and the obstacles, I am so glad to have a husband who has kept on fighting for his children. He is actively involved in the every day with our family knowing this is the stuff that matters.
Happy Father’s Day to all the fathers, father figures and all the men taking on the cause of the vulnerable. You are my heroes.