Self Care and Special Needs Parenting

Two things that don’t seem to go together very well: self care and special needs parenting. I know moms who seem to do self care well but unfortunately I am not one of them. I was sitting at our therapy waiting room reading a book and I happened to laugh out loud (Jen Hatmaker’s new book For The Love was the culprit) attracting curious looks.

It started a conversation about how little time moms of children of medical/special needs have to themselves. I don’t read books except when I am in waiting room.  “I don’t take good care of myself” one mom confessed. We all nodded in agreement.


This month my husband and I are celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary. That prompted a time a reflection and needed changes in many areas of our lives. Self care rose to the top as we want to be able to give our children present, energetic parents. An empty cup has nothing to pour into others.

We are not able to go on long overnight trips, but we decided to do a short getaway. No distractions, no schedule and just time together. It will be marvelous! I feel like if I don’t plan it, it will never happen. So more things will be planned and scheduled. I hope this will be a start of intentional self care.


  1. Wow, just the lil bit that I’ve read, and I already feel like I’m right where I’m supposed to be. I’m 57 and I have a 34 year old wheelchair bound cerebral palsy spastic quadriplegic daughter. My husband and I never get out much at all. It’s been difficult mostly because I recently got remarried he’s great with my daughter and she adores him but he doesn’t understand a lot of why there are things we can’t do. Money’s tight and I can go on and on and on. I’m very glad to be here and I hope to read more especially the part about taking care of myself thank you

  2. I have clonic type seizures, at night and during sleep. I have stairs in my condo ( with mortgage). I have lost a large amount of white matter on my brain and cannot afford to hit my head again. I also fell in July 2017 on the stairs and broke and fractured my leg. I need to find a home without stairs. Thank you


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