Adoption process and life afterwards has meant a lot of reading.. After two adoptions and three years of parenting, I am still learning and reading books that inform and encourage me. There isn’t one book that is the ultimate authority on all things adoption, but I wanted to share 5 of my favorite books for various stages of adoption. My criteria was that I wanted to share books I have read more than once, I might have read the second time with a highlighter in hand or books that have been instrumental in encouraging me as we have gone through hard times.
When you are Learning
In Defense of the Fatherless – redeeming International Adoption and Orphan Care by Amanda Bennett and Sara Brinton
This book is written from a Christian point of view and its primary audience is those considering international adoption. It is in response to the international evangelical adoption movement that has raised our awareness of orphans, yet has also caused unnecessary harm in its wake also. As the book states, it’s best to put all your preconceived notions about international adoption aside and read this book with an open mind. If you are like me, this book will convict you, it may even challenge you and if you let it, it will change you to look at orphan care in a new light. I read stories from some of my friends in the adoption world and I felt myself nodding at times over common experiences. This is the book I wish had existed before we first adopted. I feel that we would have went into our first adoption more prepared and more aware. I would also recommend this book for anyone who is thinking about short term missions trips or helping orphanages overseas. I have so many pages highlighted and tagged, it is full of solid research, Biblical truths and wrestling with issues.
When you are Waiting
The Connected Child by Karyn Purvis
This book is the reason I began our journey in trust based parenting. It is a book that helped me understand WHY my children came to us with certain behaviors instead of just wishing to correct them. This book helped me say the right things at the right times and know that I wasn’t alone. I have read the Connected Child many times since we adopted as it makes more sense as particular issues come up, but having basic understanding of attachment parenting is so important. Karyn Purvis has many free resources on her website, but this book is what I recommend starting with.
When you are Parenting
Parenting the Hurt Child by Gregory Keck
Children who have experienced hurt and trauma in their past, need equipped parents to help them heal in a supported environment. This book is an important read before your child joins the family but also as you parent them. This book gives a nice overview of traditional parenting techniques and why they may not work. It also covers common issues such as how to deal with teachers or other authority figures in a child’s life or when to seek therapy as a family.
When you are Tucking your Little One to Bed
On the Night You Were Born by Nancy Tillman
I love this book and while it’s not specific to adoption, it is the perfect book to make your little ones feel special. I read this book to Joy’s kindergarten class recently and I couldn’t hold back the tears. This book has opened wonderful discussions about my children’s adoptions even though the topic is not mentioned at all. There is something so beautiful about the illustrations and the wording that makes this book a great choice for adoptive families. That’s why I decided to include this book into my favorite adoption books, even though it’s not a traditional adoption children’s book.
When you Need Encouragement
31 Nuggets of Hope by Shelly Roberts
Shelly has the sweetest and the most encouraging spirit of any person I know. I read 31 Nuggets of Hope before Eve’s adoption, during a challenging time and it was balm to my soul. What I love about this book is that you can pick it up and read a chapter during a free moment or pick a specific chapter to read at a time you most need it. This devotional leads you to the ultimate source of Hope and encourages adoptive and foster moms during their journey. There aren’t many devotionals that are specifically made for mothers on this special but sometimes challenging journey. 31 Nuggets of Hope is a special book and one I pick up often.
When I told Shelly I was featuring her devotional in my post, she offered to send a book to one of Joyful Journey Mom readers. If you would like to win a copy, enter by commenting. You can share about a book you have enjoyed during your adoption journey or what book is on your reading list.
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